When Famous Christians are Gay
EDITOR’S NOTE: I rarely comment on current events, and I have never commented on anyone by name before in this blog, but I was invited to submit a comment elsewhere, so I’ve revised and expanded those remarks here today.
Just the other day Jennifer Knapp, a highly regarded Christian singer released interviews with both Christianity Today and The Advocate announcing she is a lesbian. The interviews were timed with news of her new album, which she will promote on separate tours this summer--one with Christian singer Derek Webb, and the other with the Lilith Fair festivals. Some Christians are shocked and disappointed, others have lauded her courage. One thing for sure is gays and lesbians in our congregations will watch the reaction of the Christian community in the coming days. In my opinion Ms Knapp's’s situation shouldn’t rise to the level of requiring comment from the pulpit any more than other people’s sexuality requires comment. The news about Jennifer Knapp simply brings what is usually below the surface back to the surface for a few days. It is a difficult question for me because I hold strong convictions in several directions.
First–the Evangelical church in North America has failed gays and lesbians for years. We have vilified, condemned, and marginalized homosexuals while straight Christians have continued to commit any number of sexual sins. We look the other way when straight Christians engage in premarital sex, or adultery, or (I say this with great horror) sexually abuse others. Rarely–very rarely–are these sins called out from the pulpit. We have failed homosexuals by making their identity almost exclusively about their sexuality while we allow straight people to define themselves by other markers in their lives. We have done these things and more. The standard Evangelical response, “hate the sin, love the sinner” is wholly inadequate precisely because we rarely exhibit hatred for other sins. If we actively condemned greed and materialism in our churches while assuring greedy materialists that we still love them how many Christians trapped in those vices would feel comfortable enough to stick around?
My second conviction is that homosexual activity is sin, and like all sin, one of it’s most dreadful consequences is that sin holds people back from the full potential in their relationship with their Creator. As a pastor, I am concerned about gays and lesbians in their shortcomings in the same way I am concerned about everyone in my charge, and myself for that matter. The fact that the Evangelical church has horribly mistreated gays and lesbians for decades means that we have lost our moral standing and the practical ability to speak to gays and lesbians. Sin does not separate God from me, it separates me from God. The reason any sin should be addressed is out of concern for the individual and their life with God. God does not need us to defend him, but he requires us to intervene in the life of those we care about. True intervention requires grace and truth. Both are necessary because we are not complete without both.
Finally, as someone who values the scripture highly, I am positively distraught at the abuse of God’s word by people on all sides of this question. Proof-texting and finger-pointing are abuses that surely anger God now as they did in Jesus’ day. Ignoring and distorting the gift of the scriptures also harms the person who comes to the text looking to affirm themselves rather than to submit to God (and lest anyone misinterpret that last sentence, I am talking about all “sides” of this issue). While some Christians use the scriptures as bullet-points in an argument, others have pushed back from the table and determined that we cannot know God’s will in the matter. The well-intentioned effort to describe the Biblical witness about homosexuality as a matter of differing interpretations is, in my opinion, misplaced. When did claiming to be clueless about what it means to be a disciple become the mark of following Jesus?
Please permit me one last observation: in his earthly ministry Jesus angered religious people while putting sinful people at ease. Yet no one would seriously contend that Jesus gave anyone a “pass” on their sinful behavior. The only One who had the right to judge others found ways to befriend the sinner and infuriate the self-righteous. I want to be like Him.
Reader Comments (28)
WOW great insights thank you.
As a Born Again Christian of 25 years I am and as far as I can remember a Bi Sexual woman....leaning more so towards women for many reasons. I cannot speak for those who are strickly gay or lesbian, but I do know I tried to be all the way straight and it didn't work. The only way I found myself not struggling with sex or attractions to either gender was by being filled with the Holy Spirit and desiring what God's will for my life was and is...as long as I was focused on Him and serving others then I noticed my desires changed. That is to me really the only cure for any kind of sin. Sad things is we allow the FLESH and the world and Satan to rule in our hearts more than God...such is the problem of living in a spoiled society.
I do not think I will ever change my attractions due to a life of abuse (never sexual thank God) neglect and abandonment and rejection etc. But I can live life knowing that we all sin and to God it isn't how much we sin or what kind, but the fact that we DO sin, and Jesus paid for all my sins and it is my heart that matters most is my relationship with Him and others....the 2 greatest commandments Jesus said were these.
@Ted I'm not sure there's a difference between a man who is attracted to women but who remains celibate and a man who has sex with women. Both are straight. The man not having sex is not "gay". He is a man. We just say that one is chaste.
A man who has same-sex attraction is either Bi, or gay. He is no different than a gay man who is not chaste. He is just not sexual at this time.
Gay men and Lesbians prefer to be called gay or lesbian. It is our name for ourselves, and we'd appreciate it if you would respect us by using it. Depersonalizing us by removing sexuality from being human does not humanize anyone. Until gays came out in our churches, straight was the default, so no one has been labeled "Straight" before. I can see that it is uncomfortable, but sine there are gays and straights now, it is the term that is most applicable, and respectful (at least for us). Think of it in the same way, historically, as when women became more prominent in the church. Male and Men used to be the default thinking of the church...now not so much. But it was uncomfortable for men in the early church to have women take part in their faith at all...now not so much.
Eventually you'll get used to respecting gays for what they bring to our churches. And calling them gay and lesbian, or whatever their preferred term, is a good positive step in that direction. Thanks.
I believe you are on track with what Jesus would say concerning this topic. I've noticed in the Bible that Jesus had compassion on the "sinners" but was angered by the "religious" who pointed their fingers at the "sinners" as if they had no sin in their own lives or that their sin wasn't as bad. Their pride blinded them of their own sin. Jesus definitely wants us to repent of our sins and live a life of freedom and peace that can only come through His love in relationship with Him. As we experience His love, we will want to walk in obedience. I pray that we as Christians will love others with His love, and as they experience His love, they will repent of any sins that are keeping them from a complete relationship with Him. May we all walk in His love and obedience.