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God So Loved The World--But Not Me

I know a guy who grew up in the kind of Christian home where going to the movies was considered sinful. The lure of forbidden fruit was strong: he longed to go to the movies and see exactly what was so wicked. The only thing that kept him from sneaking away to the theater was the nagging fear: what would happen to him if Jesus came back at the exact hour he was inside a movie theater?

I know another guy who was determined to never say “never” to God, because he was sure that God would enforce upon him the one thing he never wanted to do! I suggested that he tell the Almighty that he would never serve God in Hawaii, but my friend was not amused.

We carry conflicting ideas about God’s heart. With our heads we boldly believe that God is willing to pay any price for the redemption of mankind but with our hearts we cannot believe that God loves us personally. True, God “so loved the world” that he sent his Son to save us all, but loving the world doesn’t mean that God loves me.

Our theology allows for the love of God. Do our hearts allow it?

The answer does not come easily. Our hearts--each one of us--resist the idea that anyone could love us unconditionally. Married couples can remain together for years and still find themselves driven by the fear of rejection even though their spouse has demonstrated love time and again. Even in healthy, balanced families children have no real grasp of their parent’s love until they themselves become parents. Our insecurities run like subterranean rivers, watering our fears from below even when our surface life is filled with love and acceptance.

Jesus knew human nature all too well. He understood the pressures to perform for acceptance, and the fears of rejection. In one amazing passage he both acknowledges our shortcomings as human beings and uses our very faults to assure us of God’s love--God’s personal, one-on-one love for each of us: "Which of you, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!" (Matthew 7:9-11)

In this passage I see and feel the genius of our Lord. Jesus saw the imperfect love of fathers and mothers. It’s something we all have seen. We see mothers who lose patience and fathers who are preoccupied. We watch at grocery stores as parents speak sharp words when children don’t deserve a rebuke. If we are parents ourselves, we know firsthand how often the well of devotion runs dry and we have little or nothing left to give. Yet we also know that even in our weakness we would never substitute stones for bread or snakes for fish. We may not always be up to the task of love, but we will not harm our children. Jesus used our failings to encourage us that a perfect Father can love completely.

Somehow we are tempted to change the equation when it comes to God. We do not see his perfection as a perfection of heart, but only a perfection of holiness. We may address him as “Father” but we have no real certainty the word means the same thing when we are talking about God.

Jesus came not only to save: he came to demonstrate the possibilities of a life-giving relationship with the Father. Religious authorities were scandalized by his intimacy with the Holy God of Abraham. Who would dare call the Creator of the universe “Papa”? The mind-blowing answer is not simply that Jesus would dare to do such a thing, but that he invites us to do the same.

The Apostle Paul understood the bold invitation presented by Jesus. In the soaring beauty of Romans, chapter eight, Paul challenges us to considers the possibilities of a life-giving relationship with Papa. Not simply forgiveness of sin, but daily, joyful interaction with a Father who delights to be with us:
 "For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship. And by him we cry, 'Abba, Father.' The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God's children." (Romans 8:15-16)
 Not God’s children in some legal sense. Not children in some metaphor. We are really children, and really his. Toward the end of the chapter Paul reminds us that Jesus was the “firstborn” specifically for the reason that God wanted many more children. No servants, but sons and daughters.

We can read these words, think these thoughts, and still jump to the next web page unaffected. It takes the presence of God’s Holy Spirit to break through. The Holy Spirit is with you right now, where you sit and read.

What’s your hurry? Take moment, take a breath, and pray a prayer:

Spirit of God, will you come here--right now--and bring the heart-knowledge that my Father loves me?

Reader Comments (5)

That was an "alter call". This call passes right through the alter and right to the head of the table. Yes, yes, yes Papa wants us each to set on His abundant lap to just cuddle. I testify with all my heart He does so for even grossly imperfect me and I watched Him do so for many of our siblings in my life. I have even been angry at Him and swore at Him and He still took me in His arms to give me peace. He cannot sin against me for His love is perfect. My love is growing and there are moments when I sin against Him by shutting Him out. He is still there when I miss Him and open the door to my heart and my mind.

What you just wrote is exactly what Jesus commissions us to do: make other disciples of Him throughout the world. Thank you Ray, good job!

August 16, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterHerm Halbach

Thanks so much for your encouraging words, Herm.

August 16, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterRay Hollenbach

Well done Ray. I am never disapointed when I read you blog.

August 16, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterboB

I am as guilty as anyone when it comes to chicken/egg, cart/horse thinking. Whereas we think we project human characteristics on God in the same way as dog lovers might project human behavior on dogs, the opposite is true. With dogs we secretly know that guilty look a dog has after misbehaving is not actual understanding of sin. But it looks like guilt, so we call it that. God created us in HIS image. Of course we can relate to Him and His behavior! The idea of loving father came from Him. If we are capable of understanding the rock/bread question, it is only because He intentionally made it possible.

But not all children got bread that expected it from their earthly (parent). They might understand intellectually that a good parent gives bread, but in their experience it was rocks.

August 17, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterEd

Thanks, Ed. As I understand your point, our ability to understand the Father comes from His intentionality in making us capable to do so. Nor does the fact that there are dysfunctional fathers keep us from understanding Jesus' point, because we intuitively know how good fathers should act. Peace to you!

August 18, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterRay Hollenbach

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