

If you’re thinking about “moving your letter” to our church, don’t bother. It’s a pretty bad situation: we’ve been doing church for a dozen years, and we still don’t have a clue about determining church membership. Fasten your seat belts; it’s going to be a bumpy ride. If you want something well thought-out, go read Dallas Willard. I’m of at least six minds on the matter, and I’m one of the pastors.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m sold out for the local church. I’ll show my cards up front: “me and Jesus” doesn’t cut it. I believe Jesus has called every authentic follower into relationship with a local congregation of believers. Please allow me to be rude: I believe if you’re not tied in tight with a local church, you are just plain deceived and open to significant danger.
But here’s the thing—we just can’t figure out how to do church membership. Some congregations receive believers into their church through baptism, others ask members to sign a covenant, and still others require a catechism class and confirmation ceremony afterward. But none of those methods do it for me. Perhaps one is as good as the other—or perhaps one is as bad as the other.
The closest we can get to membership at our place is that we know it when we see it, and we know it when we don’t see it. I guess that’s pretty thin, theologically speaking. All across the U.S., church membership rolls are swollen with names of people who haven’t ventured into worship with their co-members in years. Their official pastor wouldn’t know them if they both met in a fender-bender. That’s thin, too.
Some of the New Testament models are challenging. The church is described as the God’s house, God’s field and God’s temple, and that’s just in one chapter (I Corinthians 3)! The New Testament images of the church are vivid and many. These passages convince me that the church membership is vital to a believer, like a heart or kidney. But none of the images help me determine a membership model.
Where’s the balance? Here are some examples I’ve witnessed:
But I’m rambling. Trouble is, I can’t leave this alone because I know it’s so important. I’d like to get to the place where we settle it to our (and God’s) satisfaction.
I totally believe Jesus when He says, “you must be born again.” I believe Him so much that I think we really are born into God’s family. We don’t choose our family; our family chooses us. I wouldn’t let my six-year-old run away from home. I would go after her; and yet my 23-year-old has left home, married and started a new family. I’m all in favor of that!
I’m convinced that being a part of a church should be authentic, natural and organic. We should just know. Robert Frost said that home was a place where, “when you have to go there/They have to take you in.”
That’s as much as I’ve got. Perhaps the rest of you can set me straight. I’m willing to listen
Reader Comments (5)
i love it! this has just come up for me again this week............i have had pastors tell me they dont need me to sit in the pew, that i need to be rebaptized, that i need to sign a covenant and follow certain rules and look a certain way. All of which has lead me to never want to "pledge" my membership to any church. I get a twitch everytime i hear the word, not because of what it actually means, but that it has been drug through the mud. i love how you put in words what i think! Thanks Ray!
katie bird
Great post.
On a related note: what if you & your spouse disagree on where to go? The church where he feels is his church "home" you feel no such leading or attachment to? Maybe a topic for a future blog entry?
Just something we've been struggling with pretty much since we've been married.
Thanks for all your great posts.
Wow, F.W., tough question! I'll pray about that and who knows, perhaps it'll be a future post. Meanwhile, blessings to you both!
R
this church membership thing is a tough one. i'm like you, i see the value AND the weakness in the different ways of approaching it.
this church membership thing is a tough one. i'm like you, i see the value AND the weakness in the different ways of approaching it.